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340. Children; Sibling Rivalry
"I would rather have the rod to be the general terror to all, to
make them learn, than tell a child, if you do thus or thus, you
will be more esteemed than your brothers or sisters. The rod
produces an effect which terminates itself. A child is afraid of
being whipped, and gets his task, and there's an end on't;
whereas, by exciting emulation, and comparisons of superiority,
you lay the foundation of lasting mischief; you make brothers
and sisters hate each other."
Boswell: Journal of a Tour to the Hebrides
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